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Sexy Dandy Pt II
Still The Dandy

Click here to see the outfit Outfit #1 at Balticon 57, Baltimore, MD, Friday, May 26, 2023

Please read Part I first for further backstory

In the amount of years of my doing dandyism, accomplishments and all, all highlighted here, I have long since realized its advantages and disadvantages, and I have come to terms with both of these. I absolutely love my fashion art and celebrate it whenever, however, and wherever I can. I love for other people to see my art and hopefully celebrate it along with me. Having said that, I do have a balanced and objective view of exactly what to do with my black queer steampunk drag-inspired dandyism.

Click here to see the outfit Outfit #2 at Balticon 57, Baltimore, MD, Friday, May 26, 2023

Advantages: The amount of love and adoration that I get (yay!) from others about my art is humbling and fulfilling. And, let's be honest, it's fun to dress up!

Click here to see the outfit Outfit #3 at Balticon 57, Baltimore, MD, Saturday, May 27, 2023

Disadvantages: I am sexually attracted to other men. Adult men. Adult cis or trans men. I am gay. I have used apps like Scruff (which I still use), Grindr, Gay.com, Match.com, and Grindr. You have no idea how many times I have had a guy be interested in getting to know me, ask me for naked pics (which I don't do for a host of reasons that pertain only to myself), only for me to send them my Instagram and/or my website link, only for them to immediately drop contact or even block me, all for the exact same reason others adore: my fashion art. Basically, getting a date or even a hookup while promoting my black queer steampunk drag-inspired dandyism is so rare that steak cooked Pittsburgh Rare is practically burnt by comparison.

Click here to see the outfit Outfit #4 at Balticon 57, Baltimore, MD, Saturday, May 27, 2023

I won't stop what I do anytime soon, if ever. I am only writing this because I genuinely want to express my complicated feelings which, as we all know, are valid. I want others to know the complexities of being a black gay fem queer dandy with a sexual attraction to other men who, for the most part, find my art to be a total turn-off. So what about the men who would find you hot because of, or in spite of, what you do? You tell me.

Enjoy what I have to offer; it's for you, but, first and foremost, it's for me!

Outfit at Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend, Hyatt Regency Hotel, Washington, DC, Saturday, January 14, 2023

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